On Monday 10/22/2012 at 10:27pm my wife Mary Beth and I welcomed our second child to the world. Indiana Joe Stutzman was born 9lbs 5oz and measured 22 inches. He arrives into this life with his future a blank canvas to write his story has he see s it should be told. Mary Beth, Vesper and I will provide the loving, caring and supportive environment for him to make all his future aspirations a reality and gave him a wicked cool name to get the ball rolling (Your future is not destined by your name but with one like Indiana he can’t help but be awesome, I’m just sayin’).
As I look back over the life changing events of the past 2 days, my wife and I reflect and day-dream together about the future & we are both excited by all the possibilities that an untold story of a new life present for all of us. We are now a family of 4, with a beautiful daughter and brand new baby boy. Mary Beth and I have the opportunity to raise a wonderful son and daughter, giving each guidance and lessons with our unique talents as a man and a woman. Vesper now has a little brother that will open up a whole new world her and she also gains a lifelong friend and partner. Indiana has an amazing big sister to teach him the things she had to learn on her own and always watch out for him.
Our life right now is full of new roles and endless possibilities for each of us individually and as a family.
This week’s events really got me thinking about other points in my life when it was challenging to visualize different paths my journey could take because I felt stuck in my current situation. Too often in life we look at our current situation as “set” we accept that “it is what it is” and drag through each day wishing for the endless possibilities once abundant in our youth.
What the last 2 days have taught me is that it only takes one event to change everything. With this one event a world of endless new paths and journeys awaits all of us. That’s all it takes, one event to shake up and change the rest of your life forever. That event does not have to be something that only happens once or twice in your life time though. You do not need to wait for a baby or a wedding or a graduation to change up your world, changing your life and achieving your dreams is as simple as changing your daily mindset and that can be done anytime.
In Steven Covey’s book “The 7 Habits of Highly Successful people” he outlines that a Paradigm shift is an event that has the power to change your path. He defines a paradigm as “the goggles in which an individual views the world”, simply changing goggles can alter your future and the way you live your life for the better. His first habit, the one that makes all the other 6 work is to be proactive, a paradigm shift to the realization that we control every aspect of our lives. Believing that simple truth has the potential to open up an entire world of possibilities for your future that were always there you just weren’t able to see them. As our family prepares for the challenges that also arrive with a newborn I realize how important this mindset will be to help us maintain the excitement and positive visions of parenthood. Understanding and believing that each challenging situation presents an opportunity for me to look and ask what could I have done differently and then to take responsibility for how I react to any problems will allow all of us keep the positive mind set necessary to look past the problems and forward to the possibilities.
I believe that possibilities are the products of a proactive mindset that give each of us the power to control our future; training our mind how to take ownership and responsibility instead of being reactive and blaming situations and other people for our inability to move forward. I am grateful I had parents who brought me up under the idea that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it & thankful I have had mentors that have shown me time and time again the truth to that lesson. My goal now is to not only live that every day in my own life but to share that lesson with my children so they may always experience a world that is full of possibilities.